Friday, January 9, 2009

A Wedding That Wasnt

Way before I reached the legal marrying age ,I had quite a few ideas for my marriage.These ideas were primarily formed based on the prior weddings and engagements functions I had been dragged to. Those functions gave me a clear idea what and how I didnt want my Marriage to be.
What I wanted
1.A quiet and peaceful function
2.Location X (= the current favourite)
3.No huge crowds of unknown and unheard relatives of relatives
4.To look stunningly beautiful
5.Allowance for a huge shopping spree
6.To be Pampered silly to the point of no return
7.To have loads of fun
That is all ,a small but very practical list .I had the approval of achan,who used to tell me that once I am old enough,he will have no say in any of my decisions ,be it work,marriage or anything else I wanted to do.All these were said and done a long time ago.
Coming to the present .
When I thought I was old enough ,I told achan about the guy I chose.He conveniently forgot all his earlier promises and sulked for months .
Finally he came out of it with a huge list.List of all the people to be invited.When I told him on my intension of keeping it small , he said that marriage is a social obligation and it cannot be done anyway else. That is to say that everyone in the list has to be invited .Cross item 3 .
Venue was decided by both the set of parents, Cross item 2.
No Compromise on the 3 day long ceremonies decision maker unknown ,cross item 1 .
To add to my myseries there was a relocation ,which led to a job change, which ate up my planned shopping time.Reducing the elaborate shopping spree I had dreamed of, to the level of a chore .Another item down the drain.
Wedding Day ..All focus on item 4.
Time to get ready. There was a beautician to help in this task .She irritated the hell out of me and in turn I ended up looking like hell .One glance at myself in the mirror and I stormed out .Went back to my room and undid all that she did . We were running out of time ,muhoorthum was slipping .There was banging on the door, asking me to start to the venue,causing a small argument ,leading to a few tears .
I reached the venue ,pretty late and with a grumpy face .We almost missed the muhurthum,so the priests had to cut short the wedding ceremony to tying of the mangal sutra ,pheras and other ceremony had to be moved to another 'auspicious' hour in the afternooon.By 7 PM we were finally done with all the ceremonies .On the way home I crossed off last item on the list.But I was happy,cause that day I added the lone item missing in the list. A great guy .
Note:The "guy" has promised yours truly the dream wedding ,on our 10th wedding anniversary.So let me get back to my list.